Are you too much of a control freak?
Do you like to go with the flow and be spontaneous, or are you always trying to shape events to suit you?Image Courtesy: Mia Simone Oelofse @art.swg.co.za
1. You’re working on a varsity project with your friend. When she suggests taking the lead on one section, you:
a) Say it’s cool.
b) Worry a little that she won’t do it the way you want to.
c) Insist that you’d rather do it.
2. The worst part about starting to date someone is that:
a) You don’t know if they’ll stick around.
b) It’s something new and unknown.
c) You’re not sure what they’re going to be like.
3. When your friend tells you something about her bad date, you’re quick to offer:
a) A golden ear.
b) A bit of light-hearted analysis about what could’ve gone wrong.
c) Constructive criticism about her approach to dating.
4. You’re totally swamped with your workload. When someone offers to help you out, you:
a) Are grateful for the help.
b) Might let them help, but give them rules of how to do it according to your specifications.
c) Say no. You’d rather do it yourself.
5. Your boyfriend is late for your outing together. You:
a) Don’t really make a big deal about it.
b) Get a little annoyed, but it passes.
c) Get really miffed.
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5. a1 b2 c3
You go with the flow
You don’t try to control things too much. You much prefer letting things take their course so that you can see what awesome things happen. This is a cool attitude, especially when it comes to loved ones. You aren’t the type to throw criticism down people’s throats or try to get them to be the way you want them to be. Your chilled, mellow nature is one of the things that people are drawn to about you.
Care or control?
Sometimes you have the tendency to want to take control of situations. Although it’s cool to want to make things happen, when it comes to other people they might mistake your concern for control. For instance, when a friend offers to help you and you give her a long list of how you want things done. Or when you give a friend criticism about why her dates go sour. Even though you might mean well, they could be taking it the wrong way. Try to let people do what they need to instead of being all up in their grill. They might surprise you by being awesome.
It seems that you might have a tiny little problem of wanting to control everything. Maybe you’re used to sorting things out on your own or taking charge of situations, but it’s impossible to control everything. This causes things like anxiety, anger or stress when things don’t go your way. Understand that not everything will work according to plan and sometimes it’s best to go with what the day brings. Don’t sweat the small stuff! When letting people in on your plans, allow them to take part instead of wanting them to fit in with how you expect them to be. Life’s much more fun when you live it off the cuff instead of scripted.