So you’ve been hurt before and you resolved never to take anyone’s crap. That’s cool, but just make sure your attitude is not becoming an issue. Remember that anything too extreme can be a problem.  Take our quiz to find out if you need an attitude adjustment.Image Courtesy: Mia Simone Oelofse@art.swg.co.za

1. A guy tells you he’ll call but then  he doesn’t. You:

a) Go crazy on him, telling him he’s got no respect.

b) Ignore him but seethe with anger.

c) If it bugs you after a day or so you’ll calmly tell him about it.

2. Your friends would describe you as:

a) Uptight and defensive.

b) A bit of a drama queen, but on rare occasions.

c) Chilled and mellow.

3. When someone hurts you, you immediately think:

a) Why does everyone do this to me?

b) Hmm, how can I take my revenge…?

c) Damn it hurts, but it’s just one experience.

4. Your motto when dealing with people is:

a) Sooner or later they’re gonna disappoint you.

b) You refuse to take any drama.

c) You’ve got to give people a chance to show you who they are.

5. Your bestie betrays you by snogging your boyfriend. Ouch! When you make a new best friend, you:

a) Are on your guard, expecting them to hurt you.

b) Might have a few trust issues, but it doesn’t hurt your friendship.

c) Take them for what they are.

Your score:

1. a1 b2 c3

2. a1 b2 c3

3. a1 b2 c3

4. a1 b2 c3

5. a1 b2 c3

Results:
5-7

What’s with the ‘tude, dude?

Okay, so sometimes it comes across that you might be the teeniest bit defensive and aggro. Probably a lot of hurt is lying under that shield, right? You know, maybe people have rejected you or made a fool of you in the past and you reckoned that it would not happen again. So you put up a bit of a wall, complete with fiery dogs to guard it. Although it’s good to look out for yourself, you don’t want to cut out people who are actually really cool and good for your life. That’s unfair, so give people a chance to show you who they are – not everyone is going to hurt you.

8-11

You have your moments

You’re a pretty level-headed chick with a cool attitude, but once in a while you might fly off the attitude spectrum into the extreme: perhaps by being a bit of a drama queen or taking revenge on people who’ve hurt you. But try to keep your emotions in check. When you’re hurt or you feel like you can’t deal with the unfairness of other people, take a moment to figure things out with a calm, cool head. It’s how you react to things that defines you – not what people do.

12-15
Attitude? What attitude? 

People hurt you and you hurt people. It happens in life, sometimes despite your best efforts. But you don’t let it get in the way of your attitude. You know that there’s a difference between being strong and knowing that you won’t put up with people’s drama, versus letting previous hurt make you angry or volatile. It’s your mellow and chilled out attitude that people love being around.