Are you yourself in your relationship?
Do you change when you get a boy? Are you trying so hard to fit into the role of what you think a girlfriend should be that you’re losing out on being you? Take our quiz for answers.Image Courtesy: Johne Ellis @art.swg.co.za
1. When your friends want to see you, you:
a) Make time for them in your schedule. You miss them!
b) Usually tell them you’re busy. Lots going on these days.
c) Check with your boyfriend when you’ll be free to go.
2. When last did you focus on doing something you loved, such as painting or some other hobby?
a) When your guy wasn’t around.
b) You regularly make time for your hobbies.
c) It’s been ages!
3. Since you met your guy your life has:
a) Changed quite a lot ‘cause you’re doing a lot couple stuff.
b) Been sucked into a romantic whirlwind.
c) Pretty much stayed the same.
4. When you met your guy, you both had different hobbies. Now that you’re dating, you:
a) Share each other’s interests.
b) Have taken on lots of his interests.
c) Still do stuff you want to do.
5. Your boyfriend doesn’t really get along with your bestie. What do you do?
a) You stop seeing her so much.
b) You try to keep your friendship going.
c) You try compromise between spending time with your boy and her.
1. a3 b2 c1
2. a2 b3 c1
3. a2 b1 c3
4. a2 b1 c3
5. a1 b2 c3
It seems like you kinda get caught up in a new relationship. Although this might be normal, for instance when a relationship is new and fun and it’s all you can talk about, it can be damaging to the rest of your life. It’s important to keep some balance going, okay? Don’t neglect your hobbies, dreams and friends. They’re important parts of your life that should never be on the chopping block when a guy comes around.
Although you and your guy are good at compromising, for instance when it comes to giving each other a chance to chase down your own hobbies and dreams, to the outside world you do seem to be changing now that you’ve got a boyfriend. For instance, your friends might be miffed that they haven’t seen you in a while. Try to focus on things and people you love without making your boyfriend the default number one position. You can have lots of fun in different areas of your life without making one thing the centre of your universe.
You’re the same cool chick
You don’t let the novelty of a new relationship get in the way of your life. This is good because it means that you stay grounded. You know that you’re more than just a girlfriend: you’re a friend, dreamer, awesome chick, sister/daughter/niece, and so on. Being in a relationship makes you feel stoked, but it doesn’t result in changing who you are. Why would you wanna mess with cool?