Three things you should never text your ex

Posted on January 11th, 2013 by Bongiwe Tshiqi

So you were having a down moment or one too many tequilas, and you decided to text your ex and say that you still have feelings for him. Eek! If you’ve ever done this, you’ll know how crappy you can feel the next day when your senses start coming back to you. Here are three things you should never text your ex and why: Imagge Courtesy: Johne Ellis @art.swg.co.za

1. ‘I still dig you’
Not only will you probably regret sending this because a) it’s in writing so he will always have proof of it and b) chances are that things won’t go back to how they were when you were together, but it’s not always a good idea to put yourself out there. He might be taken aback or just not feel the same. If you’re friends, this could be even more awkward.

2. ‘I hate you!’
Sometimes you don’t get the urge to say something lovely to your ex. Fuelled by bad memories from when you were together, you might be tempted to tell him that he totally sucks! This is also a no-go because it will just show him that you still care. Or it could make you seem crazy. He’ll definitely think that you’re still bombarded with feelings for him, and negative attention can be just as affirming to people as the positive attention. Don’t give him a big head.

3. ‘Remember when…’

No matter what happened in your relationship, chances are there were some really awesome times shared. But trying to remind your ex of those times could just be like trying to start a camp fire with a tennis shoe. He might respond to your text and tell you that he totally remembers how cool that experience was, or he might not even. Either way, what will sharing a trip down memory lane give you? Nothing but nostalgia, and that’s never as good as the experience was in itself. When you get the urge to become sentimental, stop watching those girly rom coms and draw up a list of all the stuff you’d rather forget.

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